Top 10 Reasons For Divorce ...

It is well said that “Marriages are made in heaven and divorces are made on Earth”. Many of the couples are seen to take the vows, such as, “Do you honor each other as your man and wife till the rest of your lives?” But many people have this feeling back in their mind, if this marriage doesn’t work, I will file divorce and get on with my life. Like all relationships, marriage is also not problem-free, it is ought to endure many ups and downs. Many people win over these fluctuations of their married life and many couples surrender to one or the several reasons and file for divorce. Here, are the top 10 reasons for divorce, which can cause the breakdown of any marriage.

10. Differences in Expectations and Priorities

As everyone has got different personality traits, the different priorities, perceptions and expectations towards life are also found to be alike. Sometimes the couples are so drastically different that they cannot cope up living together and wish their marriage to an end. If one spouse undergoes sudden changes in life, such as, severe health problem, death of a close relative or mid-life crisis, it can also be the causes of alteration in their behaviors.

9. Addiction

Over use of alcohol, drug or gambling are usually all forms of addiction, which can lead to your marriage to the rocks. The problem becomes worst when combined with physical or verbal abuse, and can leave devastating emotional scars on the whole family, including children also. It is like a black hole sucking down all the care and progression and encroach all your functional abilities.

8. Child Rearing

Child rearing is one of the sensitive issues causing rifts in the marriages and contributing as one of the major reasons for splitting or divorce. If one of the partners is totally reluctant towards child-rearing issues, then the reason can be enough to provoke the petition of divorce by the parent.

7. Religious and Cultural Strains

Couples of a different religion, culture or ethnicity sometimes do not take up the expectations of their partner’s religion and often cause resentment among them. The differences are mainly due to the several taboos posed by a culture. Besides this, most of the parents prefer the children’s religion to be the same as themselves. And, it is better resolving this issue before sliding rings on each other’s fingers than after getting married.

6. Boredom

Though unbelievable, but this can be one of the top reasons for divorce. Couples living with each other in the similar life styles often get drawn from each other. While compatible couples stay together at such times, some couples get disinterested, grow distantly and eventually fall apart. Trying new things, like eating out, traveling to exotic places can shift their life to the right track.

5. Sexual Incompatibility

Sexual and reproductive incompatibility could be the top of the reasons for divorce, as sexual dissatisfaction often leads to frustration leading to separation and divorce. However, if they are well bonded with each other, this incompatibility can be sorted out by openly speaking to each other. But if the sexual drives of both partners are totally out of synchronization then it is better take any psychological or medical help.

4. Marital Financial Issues

Financial strains are often the biggest reasons for the collapse of a marriage. Possible causes for the disagreement over unequal monetary status or financial responsibilities can cause so much of stress in their relationship that leads to their divorce. If fairness, from both sides are taken in the view and some compromising attitude is there then it can save their marriage.

3. Physical, Emotional or Psychological Abuse

It is extremely disgusting if one of the partners is abusive towards each other or children. Physical abuse, including bullying, manhandling, or violence is quite unbearable and has clear grounds for divorce. Emotional or psychological abuse can be humiliation, verbal abuse, intimidation or negative reinforcement.

2. Communication Breakdown

Lack of communication or understanding can be among the topmost reasons for the divorce. The critical “communication problem” can be due to high egoism developed between their relationship, and there is no middle level which can get them meet again. When the two-way communication no longer exists between the couple the divorce, is most likely to occur.

1. Infidelity

Infidelity is on the top of the list of reasons for divorce; no matter it belongs to any community or country. Cheating or infidelity is breach of trust and breaking of the marriage vows and is found as the only reason in over half of the divorce cases. Partners may be found consistently unfaithful for an affair or having a one night stand relationship. Whatever is the cause or reason, but it is always sad to see the most beautiful relationship coming to an end. So, it is better to avoid these top 10 reasons for divorce for leading a happy married life.

Posted in: Ahmed Sajjad Hashemy